For anything and everything, I believe, Jesus Christ is the perfect Person to whom we can look up to.
Bible portrays the relationship between Christ and the Church as an Engaged Couple waiting to get married (Actual wedding to be taken place during Christ’s Second Coming). When I say Church, I mean, the disciples of Jesus Christ, which includes all believers on this earth who follow Jesus Christ.
In a way, this is the best relationship – the relationship between Jesus and us – that we can look up to, to learn principles of a blessed married life. In this post, let me highlight 4 important inspirations from the life of Christ to love like Christ
Read the below verse from the Bible
“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. Eph 5: 31, 32
This is a profound mystery (divine secret), which Paul was trying to reveal, the secret of the love relationship between Christ and the Church.
In other words, when God created this institution of marriage, “the relationship of Christ (His Only Beloved Son) and the Church” was in His mind.
Therefore, we must never forget that married relationship is sacred and it has to model the love of God. What a joy and thrill it would be if the families on earth model the love relationship of Christ and the Church.
Let me highlight four important principles from the life of Christ
#1 Be the first one to LOVE
When Jesus was here on Earth, He chose 12 disciples to be with Him always. We all know that Jesus was perfect in every sense. But Jesus chose 12 imperfect people as His own disciples and loved them till the end.
Having loved his own who were in the world, he loved them to the end. John 13: 1
In another verse, the Bible says
But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5: 8
In other words, the love of Jesus Christ was unconditional. Jesus did not love them because the disciples were so loving, but because Jesus was so loving. Hope you got the difference!
Similarly, in a married relationship, be the first one to be loving!
Jesus loved them and you know what? His disciples later became loving men who changed the history of this world. Yes! Love can work wonders.
Action: So what are you waiting for? Do that first step of your unconditional love towards your spouse and spark the love! #BeTheFirstOneToLove
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#2 Be the first one to SACRIFICE
Jesus chose to leave the comfort zone in heaven (with His Father) and came all the way to this earth to die for the sins of mankind.
In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus: Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage; rather, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to death – even death on a cross! Phil 2: 5- 8
In history, we read about how the disciples suffered a lot for Christ, and how they were martyred for being a Christian. But you know what? Who sacrificed first?
It was Jesus who first sacrificed Himself on the cross for all of us.
Similarly in a married life, be the first one to sacrifice. Be it anything! Having a Christ-like mindset, will inspire us to be willing to sacrifice for the family.
Action: Next time, when you get a chance, what is that small sacrifice you can do for your beloved? #BeTheFirstOneToSacrifice
#3 Be the first one to FORGIVE
Jesus forgave first. And there was nothing about the life of Jesus that the disciples could forgive Christ. Disciples didn’t even get a chance to forgive Christ for anything because Jesus was perfect. But Jesus still chose to forgive them wholeheartedly.
And Jesus taught us to forgive others just the way Christ forgave us.
But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. Matt 6: 15
Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. Col 3: 13
Similarly, in a married relationship, do not hold on to grudges or resentment, forgive in the same way God forgave us. And most importantly, be the first one to forgive.
Forgive means stop feeling angry or resentful towards (someone) for an offence, flaw, or mistake.
When you choose to forgive, you release the forgiveness of God in your life too. Don’t you need forgiveness? If yes, be forgiving, so that God can continue forgiving you.
Action: What is that one thing that you are holding against your spouse? Today, choose to forgive him/her! You have a reason to forgive and the reason is this: Christ forgave you.
#4 Be the first one to SERVE
During the time of Jesus, it was the disciples who were supposed to serve the Master. But Jesus chose a different approach. He served His disciples.
For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many. Mark 10: 45
Here is an example of how Jesus practised this
When he had finished washing their feet, he put on his clothes and returned to his place. “Do you understand what I have done for you?” he asked them. “You call me ‘Teacher’ and ‘Lord,’ and rightly so, for that is what I am. Now that I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also should wash one another’s feet. I have set you an example that you should do as I have done for you. John 13: 12-15
In a marital relationship, be the first one to take the lead to serve. Even if it is small gestures like making a cup of coffee, washing clothes, helping one another in daily chores, be competent to serve!