What to do when someone shouts at you? Maybe your colleague, your spouse, your parents, your manager or your friends. Whoever it is, it is obviously not a pleasant experience. It is painful. It is humiliating. It is hurtful. But you can do something about it. Let’s discuss.
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Firstly, without a cause
If he or she is shouting at you without a cause, then you are blessed. Will someone shout at you just without a cause? Yes, it can happen. Maybe the other person was having his (her) bad day. May he (she) was frustrated and venting out his (her) anger on you.
So you might think, Am I supposed to be the victim of someone else’ bad day?
Yeah! That’s not fair. But I want to let you know that you are indeed blessed (or priviilged) when you are suffering without a cause. Sounds weird?
Let me give you atleast three reasons why you are blessed
Firstly, you decided to remain quiet.
That itself shows that you are wise. You have clearly understood that it was not your fault. You have clearly discerned that the other person was yelling at you, because he (she) had lost his peace of mind.
You have decided to stay calm and peaceful, which implies, you are at a higher level of peaceful state. That means you have a great store of divine peace in you.
All these implies, you are a person of self control, which is of greater value.
Secondly, you decided not to take it personal
You could have naturally held a personal grudge against them, but you chose to forgive. That shows you are a person who is having a good understanding. You have gone beyond their ‘hurtful words’, to reach their hearts (or minds) to understand their real situation.
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Thirdly, you decided not to negatively react
A soft answer turns away wrath, but grievous words stir up anger. Prov 15: 1
You didn’t back answer or fight back. Your soft response made a huge difference. It really made the situation peaceful.
It takes two hands clapping to make a noise
So the choice is always yours to make a difference. You made the situation cool by reacting in a positive manner.
Here is a great passage in the Bible which you might find really encouraging
God blesses you when people mock you and persecute you and lie about you and say all sorts of evil things against you because you are my followers. Be happy about it! Be very glad! For a great reward awaits you in heaven. And remember, the ancient prophets were persecuted in the same way. Matt 5: 11 (NLT Version)
Remember! It is really worth to suffer being innocent. God will definitely reward you. So let’s be happy about it and be cheerful.
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Let’s now come to the second part of it
Secondly, with a real cause
What if they are shouting at you for a right cause? You didn’t do your work properly OR You were not careful enough or You did a blunder. Whatever it is, do not worry.
It is human to err!
Even if you are shouted at, for a true cause, then also you are at advantage!
Let me explain.
This is your golden opportunity to prove your humility by accepting the correction.
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Maybe, the way it was communicated to you was not right. But doesn’t matter. Accept the ‘correction part’ and move on. It is painful, but during that process, your character will be refined, and trust me, you will come out like gold from a fiery furnace.
Here is where many people lose their patience, and will not let go off their ego and humble themselves to yield to the correction.
Yeah, try that, it definitely works. It will make you more wise, humble and peaceful.
Jesus was perfect and innocent! He never did a mistake, yet many great religious leaders shouted at him, without a cause but Jesus was always at peace. Stephen the servant of God, was once falsely accused and people made up stories to prove him wrong. But the Bible says, his face was shining like the face of an angel
All who were sitting in the Sanhedrin looked intently at Stephen, and they saw that his face was like the face of an angel Acts 6: 15
How in the world is it possible, for one’s face to shine, when people are accusing him?
That’s the power of true DIVINE PEACE. Let’s go for it! Let’s learn from these great examples of godly men, on how to react in such situations.
Therefore, whatever cause it is, the choice is yours on how to react. It is for you to decide. The small decisions you make in your mind can make a huge difference. Choose to react wisely. These are great opportunities for you to allow yourselves to be refined. You are always at an advantage if you perceive everything from a positive angle. Cheers!
What was your experience while going through such situations? How do you encourage yourselves to stay calm and peaceful? Share your experience below