You might be going through a lot of struggles or ‘problems’. It might be a financial or relationship or career related or something personal. Whatever it could be, there is a good news for you! The good news is that you don’t have to run away from the problem, instead you can face it and overcome it and there is a ‘promotion’ associated with every problem. In this post, I would like to share with you few thoughts on how to approach a problem and get promoted to the next level.
Many people never realize the fact that the problems which happen in their lives are their ‘opportunities’ for promotion. Yes, the problem in itself may not look good, but we can do something about it to turn it for good. How to turn your problems into good outcomes?
Before going further, let me highlight one of the wrong ways in approaching a problem.
Self-motivation is sometimes harmful
During difficult times, people crave for motivation. Yes, positive motivation can bring great psychological relief, but if not applied with wisdom, and not into the right context, it can produce the exact opposite results.
Here are some examples of motivational quotes
- “Don’t give up just because of what someone said. Use that as motivation to push harder”
- “Inorder to succeed we must first believe that we can”
- “Be stubborn about your goals, and flexible about your methods”
- “Don’t stop when you are tired. Stop when you are done”
Let me cite an example.
A family problem – scenario
An argument between husband and wife. Wife does something wrong, and the husband gets angry and shouts at her. There comes a problem! Now, they starts to argue over silly things and highlights the unresolved past incidents as well, which made the argument worse. In this process, both are badly hurt.
Now, the wife decides to motivate herself to bring self-relief. She finds some good quote, “Don’t stop when you are tired. Stop when you are done”. Since she was angry and was having a negative attitude, this quote wrongly motivated her to start the argument again and it grew worse.
The next motivation quote comes to rescue, “Don’t give up just because of what someone said. Use that as motivation to push harder”. Now, she is again motivated to continue the dispute without giving up. Her only aim was to win the argument. That is where she went wrong. She thought this way, “I should not give up, I should try using some more abusive words to defend myself”. This time the argument ended up in sharp dispute. (Read more on dealing with hurtful words here. Read more on dealing with arrogant or proud person here)
Approaching problems with negative attitude doesn’t bring a solution to the problem, instead it grows into a worse never ending cycle of problems.
This is where most people go wrong. They trust in self-motivation to bring solution to the problem. Self-motivation is good, but the question is, ‘Have we identified the root cause?’.
‘Did we take time to analyse the whole situation from different angles?’ ‘What have we learned from our problems?’. ‘What can we do to ensure we don’t commit the same mistake again?’ ‘What made him/her say that?’- when we are focused on these questions, with a positive attitude, those very problems take us to the next level.
Arguments are usual and natural in a family environment, but the way we approach makes the difference. (Read more on dealing with conflicts here)
Find the root cause and address it
The better solution to this problem is to find the root cause of the conflict and to address it. Both of them need to take some time to reflect on what happened. If their actions or attitudes were wrong, they should be willing to humble themselves and admit the mistakes. Atleast one of them should take an initiative to start the reconciliation process.
When he/she does that, it is at that time, the problem paves way for a solution. In this process, they learn more about each other, confess their mistakes and accept each other, and learn to adjust and cooperate better, which equips them to handle future issues in a better way. The promotion here is that ‘their love and friendship can grow into greater intensity and depth than before’. There are a million positive outcomes which can arise from this negative incident, if approached with the right attitude.
It all depends on the way we look at the ‘problem’
It’s called perception! In this scenario, these are two of the many options available for them to handle the ‘problem’
- They can remain angry and find new reasons to fight, and make the relationship worse than ever OR
- They can choose to find and admit their mistakes, confess and love unconditionally and move forward
For those who long for a ‘promotion’ which comes as a result of solving their ‘problem’, they may go for the second option, which would be a wise option. To chose that option one should be wise and should have the right perception. Our approach to ‘problems’ come from the way we look at it.
The true solution comes from the Word of God
The Word of God gives us wisdom and knowledge on how to handle problems, because the Author is God himself who knows the various issues of mankind and have suggested solutions to it. All we need to do is to seek the solution from the Word of God. Now let us see what the Word of God teaches us about the right way to solve a problem.
And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to His purpose. Romans 8:28
There are three important things to ponder from this verse
- ‘All things’ – which includes all your problems
- ‘work together for good’ – God can turn your problems, to work together for good
- ‘to them that love God, and called by God’ – This promise is only for those who love God
It includes your relationship problems, career issues, bad moments, hurts, failures, emotional breakdown, good and everything concerning you. Yes, all things!
“Work together for good”
Each incident may seem to be bad, but when combined together, God can work it together for your good. (That paves way for the promotion) This assurance helps us to face problems with a fresh perspective and a positive attitude, because we know that there is something good which can come from this problem. Allow God to give you that surprise 😉
“To them that love God”
If you truly and sincerely love God, then you can be rest assured that, the things which are happening in your life has a purpose behind it. Therefore, trust God and take positive steps to solve the problem. As you face it with God’s help and guidance, not only will that problem get solved, but you will also sore to the next higher maturity and spiritual level.
How to apply this to our problem?
Whenever we face any problem, it is natural to blame others and the situation. But, as a child of God, you can think in this way.
May be this problem happened to me for a good reason. I don’t know what it is! I don’t understand why this happened. But God knows! I will do my best to approach it with a positive attitude. I will not attempt to put the blame on him/her. I will examine my life. Did I commit any mistake? If yes, I will humble myself and apologize to him/her. If I have not committed any mistake, still I will choose to forgive him/her. This is my right opportunity to practice humility and patience. I will use this as an opportunity to prove my true character. I know God is watching me. I will make my Father in heaven proud by not reacting in the worldly way. God will reward me for what I am doing right now. I need not try to convince others that I am right, instead I will remain quiet and make peace and let God control the situation
This is how we can approach a problem with a godly attitude. In this process, our character is improved. Humility, long-suffering, love, peace, joy, patience, faithfulness and many other virtues gets added to the character. This way, the problem which happened, can bring a promotion to our ‘character’, instead of a breakdown or a conflict. The problem may appear to remain unresolved, but our personality gets improved.
Which is more important? Winning an argument or improving the personality?
What exactly is that ‘promotion’?
The promotion is nothing material or something which thrills us but the improvement of the inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. Character is the most important thing concerning a person. I believe, God allows various kinds of problems to happen in our lives so that we will become more mature and wise like Jesus. Once we learn to deal with problems with the right perspective, we become more wise to handle similar issues in future. That is when we grow as a person mentally, spiritually, emotionally as well physically.
Promotion comes from God
For promotion comes neither from the east, nor from the west, nor from the south. But God is the judge: he puts down one, and sets up another. Psalms 75: 6,7
Sometimes, we may have to let go our ‘ego’, for the better health of the society and the community we are involved with. In this process, we become a peacemaker, instead of becoming a troublemaker.
Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God. Matt 5:9
Let us see what Jesus did with His problems
- He was rejected by His own family. But He chose to love them (Jesus used this as an opportunity to practice the principle – “Love them that hate you”)
- He was falsely accused, but He chose to remain silent and the accusers themselves contradicted among themselves and couldn’t prove their accusation (Jesus used this as an opportunity to teach his disciples on how to face accusation)
- He was denied by His own disciple, but He chose to love Him. That disciple later became a martyr for Jesus (Jesus showed his disciples on how to change a person with love)
- He was betrayed by His own disciple, but Jesus still called him as ‘friend’ (Jesus used this an opportunity to practice what He preached) Read more on how Jesus handled Judas here
- He was crucified, but He remained quiet and God raised Him from death (Jesus used this as an opportunity to save the whole world)
- He was cast out of the temple, but He didn’t protest or curse them. Multitudes of people gathered to listen to him outside the temple, in mountains and valleys (Jesus used this as an opportunity to teach others that we need not go after authorities/position/power to influence/attract people, but we just have to remain faithful to God, and He will bring us the right opportunities)
- Even though He was God, the religious leaders of His time called him ‘devil’, but Jesus didn’t curse them or take revenge on them, but used this opportunity to teach his disciples on how to humble themselves by speaking only when necessary.
and the list goes on.
He never complained or murmured, instead used every dark moment of his life as an opportunity to prove his character. Finally all his problems worked together for the good of the entire humanity. Yes, God can use your problems to influence your society and generation. Just stay close to Him, and He will tell you how you should handle it.
Light shines in darkness. Inorder to be the light of the world, we need to allow problems to happen in our lives, so that our light can shine brightly.
Yes, your situation might be similar to a dark situation, but don’t forget to bring light into that ‘problem’ by using it as a potential opportunity to bring in God’s amazing plan and purpose to a fulfillment. With God all things are possible.
Did you miss that opportunity?
May be you might not have realized that your ‘problem’ was your ‘golden opportunity’! If you can approach it with the right attitude, your problem can bring in amazing results you have never even thought of, because it is God who promised that ‘all things work together for good to those who love God’. Ask God to open your eyes, and you will find a million reasons to thank God for your so-called ‘problem’. Remember, Jesus turned water into wine. He can do the same with you. God can turn your tasteless situations into beautiful outcomes.
Are you stuck in your problem? How do you approach your problem? Do you face it or flee from it? What are your challenges?