What if someone says that you are wrong?

You are Wrong
What is your first reaction when somebody points a mistake in you?

  • Do you become violent?
  • Do you try to justify yourself?
  • Do you try to put the blame on others?
  • Do you try to prove yourself right?
  • Do you feel like fighting with them?
  • Do you feel like pointing their mistakes in return?
  • Do you get offended?

If the answer to any of the above questions is ‘Yes’, then you have arrived at the right place and this is the right time to do a self-check.

Especially, when it is someone inferior to you, or a person younger than you, tries to point your mistakes, that’s when your ego pops up, and you may at least question in your mind, “Who are you to correct me?”. (ego is a person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance). Here, your focus is on the ‘person’, who corrected you, rather than the ‘thing’ which is being pointed out. This is where wise people make a difference in the way they react.

In this post, I would be focusing on the right attitude, that you should maintain and strive hard to achieve, when someone says you’re wrong. I do agree that, there are some situations where people try to become smart in front of others by putting you down, or may try to use your mistakes to humiliate you in public. There are different ways to react in such situations. But in this post, I would focus on the scenario where the mistakes pointed out were genuine, and was done in the right way. 

The way you react indicates, what kind of person you are! Therefore, it all depends on who is being corrected, rather than the one who does the correction. Let me point out some of the ways in which wise people react to, when they are corrected. 

Let us take a deeper look into below portion from the Word of God. Please remember to add your thoughts also, in the comments below.

Anyone who rebukes a mocker will get an insult in return
    Anyone who corrects the wicked will get hurt.
So don’t bother correcting mockers;
    they will only hate you.
But correct the wise,
    and they will love you.
Instruct the wise,
    and they will be even wiser.
Teach the righteous,
    and they will learn even more. [Proverbs 9: 7, 8, 9]

One of the most beautiful thing a person can do for you is to tell you when you go wrong!

5 signs of wisdom when you accept correction

1. When you accept correction, you prove yourselves wise

You know why? When somebody points a mistake in you, and when you accept it, you are growing one step higher. Yes, it is sometimes painful to be corrected or rebuked, but the truth is that, if we take it in the right sense, it will be for our good. Foolish people think they are wise in their own opinion, but their actions deny it.

If you listen to advice and are willing to learn, one day you will be wise. [prov 19: 20 Good News Translation]

2. When you accept correction, you show that you are humble

This is how you know whether you are truly humble or not. When someone tells you, that you are wrong, if you choose to let go off your ego, and pay attention to their correction, then it shows that you have a humble attitude. People will respect you for your humility. Foolish people are not open to correction.

3. When you accept correction, you admit that you are imperfect

We know that we all are imperfect, which means, there are still lot of things to be improved. Therefore, when someone makes you aware of your mistake, then it’s the right time for you to know and acknowledge your faults and do the needful to make improvement. Therefore, when you politely accept the correction, you admit that you need improvement, which is a good sign that you are really wise. Foolish people think that they are already perfect and assumes they need no correction. They hate being disciplined.

In another portion, it says:

To learn, you must love discipline; it is stupid to hate correction. [Prov 12:1]

4. When you accept correction, you prove that you are mature

It is the nature of small children, to put blame on others, and act righteous. But when you are willing to be corrected, it shows how mature you are! Some people think that, justifying and proving oneself right, is true maturity. But it is not!

If you reject discipline, you only harm yourself; but if you listen to correction, you grow in understanding. [Prov 15:32]

5. When you accept correction, you prove that you are teachable

You show that you are willing to change, and that’s a good sign of growth. I have heard this famous quote

To stop learning is to stop growing. Always remain teachable. ~ Michael John Bobak

3 ways wise people will treat you when you correct them

1. Wise people will be grateful to you when you correct them

You know why? It is because they know that it was for their good, that they were corrected. Hence they will be so thankful to you for pointing out their shortcomings. They know that, if it were not pointed out, they would have committed the same mistakes elsewhere, and would have got into trouble. So they will be grateful to you for helping them get out of trouble in future. This is what is called ‘wisdom’. How true, when Bible says,

Instruct the wise,
    and they will be even wiser.

So, when somebody tries correcting you, try to admit it and receive the correction, and say, “Thanks for correcting me. I will try to improve”. Doing this, will make you more humble and the one who corrected you, will feel more comfortable to correct you in future. This way, you gain more wisdom.

2. Wise people will love you when you correct them

When you correct a wise person, they will love you because, they know that, it was because of you, that they could improve their character, personality and attain more maturity in life. That is why the Bible says

Do not rebuke mockers or they will hate you;
    rebuke the wise and they will love you.

Foolish people will hate you, if you correct them.

3. Wise people will respect you for pointing their mistakes

You know why? It is because they know that, you were honest and spoke directly to your face, without speaking behind your back. You know that, it is because they love you, that they corrected you. Hence, as a wise person, you will respect them.

Why foolish people hates correction?

If you correct someone, and if they immediately rejects it or hurts you or tries to find fault with you, remember it is not your problem, but it is because they are not mature enough to receive the correction. So, if you keep on correcting them, you will gain more hatred from them and eventually will lead to relationship problems. So the best way to deal with such people is to leave them alone, and pray for them. It really works!

Bible clearly tells us that, it is the foolish person who forsakes warning or correction

Anyone who rebukes a mocker will get an insult in return. 
    Anyone who corrects the wicked will get hurt.
So don’t bother correcting mockers;
    they will only hate you.

So, how to react when someone says you’re wrong?

Next time, when someone tells you that you are wrong, just take a pause and look at your own self, and if you are convinced that you were wrong, have the courage to admit it and be willing to change. It will make you grow and make you wiser. Also don’t forget to thank them. Wisdom is more valuable than prestige.

Now, it’s the time for a self-check! Are you wise? Do the people around you feel free to correct you? What are your thoughts on this?

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  • Joanna Sara Valson

    Wonderful post!!

    Truly, this is a self-check tool to know whether we are humble/ have the mind of Christ. As the book of Philippians 2: 3 says..”in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself.” This can be possible only if have a broad heart to take up corrections and forgive at the same time. May the Lord enable us to have this mind..
    Thanks for writing it up!! God bless..

    • http://hisvoiceonline.com.md-in-70.bigrockservers.com/ Donny Thomas Kurien

      Thanks for your views. Yes the attitude/mind of Christ is our ultimate focus! Wonderful!

  • varun singh

    Your thoughtfulness is a delight to receive. Lovely Post Donny once again.!!

    • http://hisvoiceonline.com.md-in-70.bigrockservers.com/ Donny Thomas Kurien

      Thanks Varun. God bless you.

  • http://youth4jesusblog.wordpress.com Soumya

    Excellent post Donny. Wise thoughts worth sharing with us!

    • http://hisvoiceonline.com.md-in-70.bigrockservers.com/ Donny Thomas Kurien

      Thanks Soumya sister for your comment. God bless you.