4 Vital Tips For Newlyweds To Enjoy A Blessed Marriage

I’d like to share with you with a set of four vital tips (out of the many) for the newlyweds.

1. Consider each day as crucial as the wedding day

Weddings are now broadcast online, allowing more people to virtually participate and observe the ceremony, prayer, worship, vows and photos. This is undoubtedly a memorable occasion that ought not be forgotten- quite possibly for lifetimes to come! The union between the couple begins their new life together. For some time, weeks or months even – perhaps years- it is possible that snapshots of the exquisitely captured moments circulates via social media. But does this constitute all?

As days goes by, the couple needs to focus on getting to know each other and living out the life that God has planned for them.

Each day in marriage is as crucial as the wedding day. Devotion, preparedness, Bible reading, prayer, worship songs, social gather, eating and having fellowship together, should be carried out each day in order to foster a greater sense of reverence towards one another and cultivate genuine love between them. That’s when the God ordained purpose of marriage gets fulfilled.

2. Ultimately, it is your decision to make.

Decisions concerning, Where to live, which car to purchase, when to resign, when to relocate, when to have a child, what name to put for the child and so on; all of these are critical points which require careful thought and decision as a couple. Parents, friends and relatives can offer their opinions or recommendations regarding life’s further decisions; however, the ultimate decision should be left up to the couple.

We have a great example from the Bible. God blessed Zachariah and Elizabeth with a child. When it was time to name the child, relatives and neighbors decided to put the child’s name as “Zachariah” after his father. But his mother Elizabeth said, “No! he shall be called John”. But the relatives said, “There is no one among your relatives who has that name” Then they made signs to his father, to find out what he would like to name the child. He asked for a writing tablet, and to everyone’s astonishment he wrote, “His name is John.” (Reference Luke 1:57-62)

Elizabeth knew how to say, No!

Learning when to say “No”, when it is needed, is a very important quality needed for both the husband and wife. The reason for naming John, was because, an angel had already spoken to Zachariah about this even before he was born. Zachariah and Elizabeth were already aligned on this. As husband and wife, they need to be aligned with each other on what decision they are going to take. Let no one negatively influence that decision which both of them has taken with much thought and prayers.

3. Guard your ‘new home’ from the invisible enemy

The newly married couple is now united in an effective team, ready to forge ahead in their journey towards building their new home. They must contend with an adversary named satan, who seeks only to destroy the new home they have just made for themselves. This tragedy befell the first family!

Now the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?”

We observe Satan’s efforts to infiltrate the first family by posing inquiries and inciting confusions. Eve yielded to temptation, consuming an apple that God forbade her from eating; prompting Adam also to partake of it.

In day-to-day life, these perplexing inquiries and confusions can arise from close friends and relatives.  As people, they are not our enemies but they could be easily be manipulated by Satan to utter ‘certain words’ in an effort to misdirect relationships within a couple. If couples aren’t alert enough in examining where this issue stems from then their relationship could become fraught with tensions and discordant feelings!

4. Never entertain the notion: He/she is not my ideal match

During the early stages of matrimony, a pair may be uncertain as to whether they made an optimal decision or conversely, could there exist another individual who would prove more advantageous to them both? This self-deception devised by Satan must not be allowed to take root!

The one that you are married to the ideal choice for you, given the following rationale:

God has joined you both, and this signifies that He created your new home (which constitutes both of you and God Himself). God’s creation is always the pinnacle of excellence!

The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”…Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. (Gen 1:18) , 22